“Sometimes a woman is so bound up in being the too-good mother to other adults that they have latched on to her tetas, teats, and are not about to let her leave them. In this case the woman has to kick them off with her hind legs and go on anyway”.
Clarissa Pinkola Estés brief but accurate description to retrieve and unblock the intuitive nature.
This applies not only to women. Many men are caught in this trap too.
Connection and conversations are essential in healing and recovery. This is why working with a healer who is connected will have far better results than many counsellors/therapists who are in their head and approaches (read about All about culture).
Whilst there is a need for the mother relationship for children and for adult children to heal, this is best served by those whose job it is to do so. Being a too good mother or becoming dependant on on one after your time is due can block your growth (read The gift of Inspiration).
It is not easy to kick people off with your hind legs especially if there is a deep love for them and it not easy to be kicked by someone else’s hind legs. Yet there is a time when this is necessary. It is not a lack of love and compassion. It is the exact opposite.
Especially if you want to unblock your intuitive nature and work with love:
Kahlil Gibran on work
“ and when you work with love you blind yourself to yourself, and to one another, and to god. And what is it to work with love? It is to weave the cloth with threads drawn from your heart, even if your beloved were to wear that cloth. It is to build a house with affection, even as if your beloved were to dwell in that house. It is to sow seeds with tenderness and reap the harvest with joy, even as if your beloved were to eat the fruit. It is to charge all things your fashion with a breath of your own spirit”.
“And if you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of those who work with joy. For if you bake bread with indifference, you bake a bitter bread that feeds but half man’s hunger. And if you grudge the crushing of the grapes, your grudge distils a poison in the wine. And if you sing though as angels, and love not the singing, you muffle man’s ears to the voices of the day and the voices of the night.”
So if someone has latched on to you, give them a kick or if it’s you pull yourself off. Unblock yourself and work in this wonderful intuitive nature of yours.